So I’m sure you guys have all seen this blog post going around, called “Marriage isn’t for you” (if you haven’t, you should read it haha)…. well I did, and it was a really great article. But it got me thinking.. about weight loss and about why we do what we do, and why we put ourselves through what we put ourselves through just to either A) look a certain way society wants us to look B) feel a certain way, or C) feel more comfortable in our own skin because society has always told bigger women that we are not accepted.
So I read that article again for a second time, all while thinking about weight loss instead of marriage, and it just clicked… You don’t try to lose weight and be healthy to make yourself happy, you try to lose weight and be healthy to make someone else happy…. whether it’s a significant other, a parent, a friend, a family member, when you get started, I think (and I could be wrong and you can tell me if I’m wrong) you are usually starting because of something or SOMEONE else… like for me, why did I start? Well, I was getting married, and I wanted to look good not only for myself, but for my future husband, and for everyone at the wedding… I didn’t want people staring at me thinking “wow, she could afford to loose a bunch of weight don’t you think?” or “wow, that dress just doesn’t look good on her because of how big she is”. So I started my journey because of someone else. But then you keep going in the article, and it talks about how marriage isn’t for yourself, it’s for a family, it’s for your future children…. and I think same goes for weight loss… If you are overweight, unhealthy, and unable to do everyday activities, then you, at least I think, won’t be able to be the best parent, or family member, because let’s face it…. once you bring children into this world, those children NEED YOU and they need you around and you need to be healthy.. you need to be able to take them to the park, play with them, coach their sports, teach them how to play sports on your own, a whole BUNCH of things… and you can’t do that if you are unhealthy… so I think a big reason too why I finally FINALLY GOT OFF MY FREAKING ASS was because I was thinking about these things… I want to live a long healthy happy life, and I wasn’t going to do that at the weight and physical shape I was in, and if I stayed that way, how would I even bend over to teach my children how to tie their shoes you know?
This quote was from the article,
No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”
Weight loss, and this journey, as much as it is for YOU and how you feel, deep down, it’s for the ones you love, its for the ones you WANT to love you, it’s for society, it’s for your condescending father, it’s for all of those things… What’s in it for me? Yes, I can say a lot of things, but the things that I can GIVE are much greater… I can give someone a long healthy life with me, I can give my children a fun, active mom, and I can give my friends and family someone that doesn’t always complain about being overweight, or having to do an activity I can’t necessarily do because of how big I am…. I can give so much more now that I’m healthy, and honestly… I wouldn’t change that for the world.
By the way, it’s cold out now, and I LOVE THE COLD BECAUSE OUTFITS ARE SO MUCH CUTER. I love that I am able to fit in things I couldn’t even dream of fitting into last fall – NON-SCALE VICTORY right there!!!!!!
Happy Fall Ya’ll!