Weight loss isn't for you

1381615_544091882345242_1688726095_nSo I’m sure you guys have all seen this blog post going around, called “Marriage isn’t for you” (if you haven’t, you should read it haha)…. well I did, and it was a really great article. But it got me thinking.. about weight loss and about why we do what we do, and why we put ourselves through what we put ourselves through just to either A) look a certain way society wants us to look B) feel a certain way, or C) feel more comfortable in our own skin because society has always told bigger women that we are not accepted.

So I read that article again for a second time, all while thinking about weight loss instead of marriage, and it just clicked… You don’t try to lose weight and be healthy to make yourself happy, you try to lose weight and be healthy to make someone else happy…. whether it’s a significant other, a parent, a friend, a family member, when you get started, I think (and I could be wrong and you can tell me if I’m wrong) you are usually starting because of something or SOMEONE else… like for me, why did I start? Well, I was getting married, and I wanted to look good not only for myself, but for my future husband, and for everyone at the wedding… I didn’t want people staring at me thinking “wow, she could afford to loose a bunch of weight don’t you think?” or “wow, that dress just doesn’t look good on her because of how big she is”. So I started my journey because of someone else. But then you keep going in the article, and it talks about how marriage isn’t for yourself, it’s for a family, it’s for your future children…. and I think same goes for weight loss… If you are overweight, unhealthy, and unable to do everyday activities, then you, at least I think, won’t be able to be the best parent, or family member, because let’s face it…. once you bring children into this world, those children NEED YOU and they need you around and you need to be healthy.. you need to be able to take them to the park, play with them, coach their sports, teach them how to play sports on your own, a whole BUNCH of things… and you can’t do that if you are unhealthy… so I think a big reason too why I finally FINALLY GOT OFF MY FREAKING ASS was because I was thinking about these things… I want to live a long healthy happy life, and I wasn’t going to do that at the weight and physical shape I was in, and if I stayed that way, how would I even bend over to teach my children how to tie their shoes you know?

My first official - 1 handed handstand - I could actually sit there like that for a while haha - would have NEVER been able to do this a month ago. Keep working hard!

My first official – 1 handed handstand – I could actually sit there like that for a while haha – would have NEVER been able to do this a month ago. Keep working hard!

This quote was from the article,

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Weight loss, and this journey, as much as it is for YOU and how you feel, deep down, it’s for the ones you love, its for the ones you WANT to love you, it’s for society, it’s for your condescending father, it’s for all of those things… What’s in it for me? Yes, I can say a lot of things, but the things that I can GIVE are much greater… I can give someone a long healthy life with me, I can give my children a fun, active mom, and I can give my friends and family someone that doesn’t always complain about being overweight, or having to do an activity I can’t necessarily do because of how big I am…. I can give so much more now that I’m healthy, and honestly… I wouldn’t change that for the world.

By the way, it’s cold out now, and I LOVE THE COLD BECAUSE OUTFITS ARE SO MUCH CUTER. I love that I am able to fit in things I couldn’t even dream of fitting into last fall – NON-SCALE VICTORY right there!!!!!!

Happy Fall Ya’ll!
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3 replies on “Weight loss isn't for you

  • Stefani

    I understand your point, and I don’t want to be the person who says, “It is different for me.” But it really is. I started to work out, because I wanted to meet new friends in a new town. That is why I joined Crossfit. I continue working out, because it’s fun. I have had moments when I start working out for someone else and it ruins it. I give up. If I’m not doing it for me I won’t do it. I’m sure that some may agree with this post, and relate but I don’t. Also, I am concerned with long term success rates of people who lose weight for others. If someone you loved said, “I like you better chubby.” Or if they left you after all your hard work for them, will a person who lost weight for someone else continue their healthy lifestyle? Just good for thought. I do love your blog though, and relate with most posts.

  • Kelly

    I Completely Agree! I Wanted To Get Healthy And Lose Weight For Not Only Myself But my Husband, And Our Future Children ThaT May Not HaPpen If I Didnt Get Serious About Getting Healthy. Society Wants Everyone To Be Skinny And Just To Be Like Everyone Else Isnt The Right Reason To Make Such A Lifestyle Change. Change For Yourself, Your significant Other, Future, Or Present, Children, Your Family And Friends. They Are The Ones To Help You Through It So Change For Them!

  • Andrea Kuchinski

    Stefani – I agree with you – I think for me, it was both, I started this whole weight loss thing for someone else, and ultimately, now I am doing it for me… I am doing it for myself and others… and if someone I loved left me after all my hardwork that I did to better myself, then honestly, that person wasn’t in the relationship for the right reasons. Unfortunately you can’t control the people who you are doing it for, but you can still work hard and let them know how you feel and why you are doing it.

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