Let’s talk about this Bethenny Frankel thing.
Ok so, like most closet RHONY fans, I follow Bethenny Frankel on FaceBook…. I have my own opinions on her and the show haha, but I’m going to keep that to myself for now. Tuesday, I was surprised to see this photo of her on her FB page, promoting her new book, Skinny Girl Cocktails. Much to my surprise, she looked sickly in this photo… (now, I am not here to judge, or comment on weight or size, but I am here to tell you my honest opinion.) Bethenny has built her empire around promoting healthy drinking, (even though healthy drinking means no drinking haha) healthy eating, being a mom and an entrepreneur, and being able to juggle it all at once.
So what’s the deal?
Now to me, for someone to be in the spotlight, I would think that if you are promoting healthy living, you wouldn’t get to the point where you might actually be sickly. I understand the pressures of being in the spotlight (I mean, I don’t really, because I’m not famous hahaha) but if you are telling young women, or women of any age for that matter, that the most important thing in life is to be healthy and have a balanced life, I would not be posting this photo.
So many feelings. What are yours?
A lot of people are commenting about how they feel about the photo, both negative and positive, and TO EACH THEIR OWN, right? Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But what do you think? Do you think A) we should even be criticizing her for what she’s posted (or rather, commenting about how we feel) B) we should let her know that we think maybe she’s gone too far with making sure she looks perfect in the spot light? or C) nothing’s wrong, she’s just being Bethenny.
What was she thinking?
I don’t actually feel super comfortable talking about this, but Bethenny is in the spotlight, and she put herself there. She literally put that picture there. If you’re that high-profile and decide to post something, you might want to be prepared for the fall back (which I am prepared for if a lot of people are mad at me for writing this blog post). We all know what it’s like to post a selfie, and the often-painstaking process of deciding what to put out there about yourself.
My friend Jess has an opinion.
[Meet Jess (aka Bobcat) — here’s us the moment we met, we had just spent 24 hours straight staying up all night designing for charity, so yes, we look redic.. ]
Hello, you wonderful, giant, empowering community! Here’s my thing. Bethenny is the face and voice of Skinnygirl, and she’s agreed to be the spokeswoman for these words. “You know what you want out of life, ladies. We’re just here to show you how to get it.”
My reaction to this picture is, if that’s what it takes, you don’t know what I want. If that’s what it takes, it’s not worth it. We have so many messages telling us that women can’t have it all. And even though Bethenny and her words are about HOW to have it all, that picture sends the message that the words aren’t actually true.
Drinking + Dieting = It’s Complicated.
Everyone who’s ever been on a diet knows that alcohol is one of the biggest stumbling blocks for anyone who enjoys imbibing. Not only do you have to change the way you eat, the way you manage your time, and the way your body feels on a daily basis (which is often pain) — after a week of working on yourself, you can’t kick back and have a couple drinks. Everything is calories. Everything counts. This brand says we can hold the liquor and drink it too. That there’s a way around all the self-discipline it takes to make real changes in your life. A shortcut, at least. But the “Skinnygirl Rules” from Bethenny’s book titled — I kid you not, Naturally Thin — read like a guide for how to have disordered thinking about food disguised in empowering language. “Taste everything, eat nothing”??? Are you kidding me?
Let’s raise our voices.
Andrea again here. I commented finally, just briefly on my friends comment. I wasn’t going to weigh in because I did enough commenting about it to my close friends, but I was shocked this morning when I got this email from a friend who saw me comment. It made me cry, because ALL I EVER want to do is remind people that no matter what, you are STRONG and BEAUTIFUL and you should never forget it……
From my friend……..
“Hello, I want to thank you. After the seeing the release of the “skinny girl cocktail” book, I am scared and saddened at the outlook for female role models in the fitness and diet industry. I do not know her, but I know that thinness to that degree is a sign of sickness, not health and happiness. Thank you for being one of the strong ones who can be who you are without falling to the pressure. Moving into figure and bikini completions has opened me up to greater exposure to this sort of thing. Yes, you need to be thin to compete, but no one lives this way. We all just want to be strong. You are strong. Thank you.”
This Bethenny conversation feels icky and negative. Do you have any encouraging words for those of us whose heads are spinning with body-image issues today? Please share some positive thoughts with our community.